Live the Tension

Tension seems to be a buzz word in every persons life. From a child in school to an elderly person, everyone seems to be in some sort of tension. Tension about exams, cricket match, not having girl friends,finding girl friends, managing girl friends, financials, health etc seem to be bothering every person. Many times, most of these tensions are self created and not actual things to worry about. Competing with peers and friends for objects not essential in life are at times the causes of these tensions. Like an workaholic, who searches for work, a person used to taking tension, keeps on finding new tensions. He can not think of a life without tension. If there is no tension in his life, he thinks that something is going wrong.

I have friend who was tensed about his marriage process. Circumstances and fate lead to him being worried about the manner in which his bride hunt was processing. Every time I met him, he seemed to being worried about the process and the fact that he was not able to find the right partner. Some or the other obstacles seem to delay his hunt. Most of his day revolved around this activity. Soon he started giving up on the process and did not want to talk about it. May be it was his method of staying away from this anxiety. After a lot of efforts and anxious periods, everything went as per his plan and he got engaged to a girl. Everything went so fast and his engagement date was fixed. The heartening news could not stop me and another dear friend from meeting him on the day. While I felt that everything would be fine and he would be on the seventh sky, it did not turn out to be. He had new sets of tensions cropping up. Now it was about the engagement process and the tension of the fact that everything went so fast. As one set of tensions left him, another set of tension filled up his life. Honestly speaking nor his earlier tensions nor his new tensions were things to be worried about, but the habit of complicating things never goes. On the day of the engagement, after everything went fine, I overheard his mother enquiring to his to be daughter-in-law if the tension about the engagement process had been over. It kept me wondering what the tension could have been. Instead of enjoying the process, it was the tension that seemed to have been bothering the three of them.

As Newton said, mass can neither be created nor destroyed, it can only be transformed from one form to another. Tensions would remain in life irrespective of your position, status and age. The form and magnitude of tension varies.
A beggar in the street, is tensed about his daily meals. His life seems to revolve around his daily meals. He feels that if he gets money enough to give his required daily meals, everything would be great. However once that happens he aspires to earn more. This increases the tension. Once he starts earning money he aspires for more and so do his tensions increase. Irrespective of the money that he earns, the tension does not decrease. In fact, the amount of tensions increase. earlier he was worried about earning the money, now he is tensed about investing his money. Many people feel that rich business like Ambani and Tata would have all the happiness in life. however they do not realize the fact that these guys have many more tensions than the poor guy. They have to worry about those millions share holders and lakhs of employees whose family completely depend upon their decisions. Having a feet of cars and helicopters does not guarantee or mean no tension. it just means more and more tension.

A person should be able to distinguish between actual tension and created tension. If he is able to do so, he can focus on the real tensions of his life and try to solve them. Tension needs to be enjoyed and faced as a warrior faces the challenges.